Male opinions on dating a rape victim
Part of supporting a rape victim is not trying to rush them and understanding that they will heal in their own time.According to the Rape, Incest and Abuse National Network, these are other things you can do to support a rape victim: And remember that while supporting a rape victim, it's also important to care for yourself too.When I started volunteering at the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center as a medical advocate and then as a survivor speaker, I found ways to drop volunteer experiences into the conversation.I found ways to start the conversation, and decided how deep I wanted to go based on the response.
If you have taken the time to educate yourself, you probably won’t say any of these things: What were you wearing? As a survivor and as a human, I can only be the expert in my own experience.But throughout my decade of dating, I picked up a few pointers when it comes to encountering a survivor of sexual violence on a date.♦◊♦DO educate yourself.Chances are, you will go on a date with a survivor, so do yourself and your future dates a favor and start learning about the issue now. If you decide you don’t like the person enough to continue dating them, call them.There are lots of places where you can go educate yourself at a place like RAINN, National Sexual Violence Resource Center, or 1in6, and here’s a link to a fact sheet from the Center for Disease Control. Go the extra step to let them know that you think they are brave/courageous/insert true and positive adjective here but that you don’t feel that special something you want to feel in order to go out on another date.